How being ugly can make you more attractive

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  • Published: 29 June 2019
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  • Esther Besther
    Esther Besther  3 hours back

    At almost 23 I'm still not sure if I'm comfortable with being called a woman over girl. Man and Woman sound like titles for old people. I don't think of my boyfriend as a "Man", but rather a guy. So some undefined age ranges go boy -> guy -> man, but then there's girl -> girl -> woman.

    • EyeLean5280
      EyeLean5280  9 hours back

      Oh, wow, this is so relatable. In my youth, I was one of those polarizing women. A fair amount of men thought I was nobody to look at twice, but there were also men who were * passionately * attracted to me.

      My own opinion about my looks is I was mostly a five. Not ugly, not beautiful. But I had my good days, and my good outfits. On a good day in a good outfit, I was more a seven, maybe an eight, in my opinion. But most of the time, I was a five.

      However, I think it's also fair to say that my personality added to my appeal for the guys who were attracted to me. I'm a strong, independent woman and while not an intellectual, still respectably bright. And very friendly. I like people a lot and am always nice and chatty to everyone. I think certain types of shy men appreciated that because it made me approachable.

      And now, since you asked, so I'll answer: I think "girls" is fine for referring to women under, say, 26 or 28. I think this because human brain development finally completes in that time frame and because culturally (at least in the Anglosphere), people are still living pretty "young" lives up to about those ages, both in terms of their relationships and their careers.

      • daniel vb
        daniel vb  13 hours back

        I think people are reading too much into this.

        • DomInator
          DomInator  1 days back

          I chop it up to this. When I see a girl that I know is probably "generally attractive" I assume shes probably taken. Because they always are. It's kind of hope crushing. Oh, you just addressed this lol.

          • DomInator
            DomInator  1 days back

            "Even if its sometimes negative" I mean, I did instinctually think "fuck you Megan Fox" when you showed her lol

            • Space Zoo
              Space Zoo  1 days back

              What's happening with the ratings disparity between women that are 'hot' or women that are 'cute' but both are rated 4s comes down to how much they're trying to appear sexually appealing/available. For insecure men, women that appear sexually available is unattractive to them because they don't believe they can attract or hold onto that girl, i.e. megan fox. Kirsten Bell seems like if you got her she probably wouldn't cheat on you.

              • The Hypest
                The Hypest  2 days back

                I don't like it when human beings are reduced to numbers on a data sheet

                • EBOLA La La
                  EBOLA La La  2 days back

                  Cute girls are 69% better than hot girls

                  • Mitra Zaker
                    Mitra Zaker  2 days back

                    More of this sort of videos please

                    • Kisix3
                      Kisix3  2 days back

                      "that the more men as group disagree about a woman's looks, the more they end up liking her" that's maybe true but even if one of them end up liking her, will he ever be brave enough to tell the others: "ey i like the girl we disgaree about her look". I mean the others will be like: "whaat u date her?, she ugly". So even if such things make men like an "ugly" woman more, sociality will even take that one advantage such a girl has and make it into a disadvantage.

                      • Dawn Corona
                        Dawn Corona  2 days back

                        This made me feel better about my eye color😊 atleast someone out there would like it😂

                        • Worst Producer
                          Worst Producer  2 days back

                          10:41 Legend says that he started coloring his hair at that point

                          • Worst Producer
                            Worst Producer  2 days back

                            7:20 First of all the girl on the left is way cuter but her picture is boring and the other one gets a lot of messages from weirdos just for the picture and because she might be "more approachable"

                            • ZF Productions
                              ZF Productions  2 days back

                              Was thinking the same thing that you mentioned near the end about the types of guys that are sending the messages.
                              Also, was there anything about # of messages per user - or was it all for just one user... it could just be that the girls who have the highly polarizing views actually respond more often because they see how people are rating them and want to "confirm" the high rating. Kind of like consolation I guess.

                              • Tomy Toka
                                Tomy Toka  2 days back

                                you're saying that the article is objectifying women but actually it's describing men's way of thinking and behaviour. So is more a data analysis of men that women

                                • Froggy Ribbet
                                  Froggy Ribbet  2 days back

                                  Do u think anyones type is green and uhhhhh..... stuffed

                                  • Twooping
                                    Twooping  3 days back

                                    This actually made me feel better about myself haha

                                    • Yurei complicake
                                      Yurei complicake  3 days back

                                      Where did you get your ring ?

                                      • Zaroj
                                        Zaroj  3 days back

                                        So it would appear that it would be worth sending messages to those 4s that are viewed as traditionally “cute” by most because they are seeing less messages than the polarizing 4s, which theoretically increases your chances of getting a reply

                                        • YourDivineJudgment
                                          YourDivineJudgment  3 days back

                                          wait... REPTILE mind???
                                          lizard men are among us friends! let's hide while we can!!

                                          • Ana Darko
                                            Ana Darko  3 days back

                                            That is funny because for a while I’ve felt like few guys like me, but the ones who do like me REALLY like me.

                                            • Ezreal 'TrueWOPR' Clownguard

                                              Is this going to touch on 80/20 or is this just going to say "0s are attracted to 0s"?

                                              • Sluppie
                                                Sluppie  3 days back

                                                I see this in a slightly different way: Men are significantly more likely to message women who they consider to be '5s' over '4s' or lower, and the number of men tagging them as '1s' don't actually impact anything at all.


                                                Consider this: What if you had one lady who had 100 men rating her as a 1, but no one rating her as a 5. This is going to be significantly different than another woman who has 50 men rating her as 1 and 50 men rating her as 5. The former lady has plenty of men thinking that she's ugly, but I'm willing to bet that no one is messaging her.


                                                The problem here is that the article only compared women who have similar average scores. It didn't really compare women who have different scores, and I think that doing so would have painted a clearer picture.


                                                I do think that the conclusion is the same: It's better to stand out than not. You aren't looking for mediocre global attraction. You're looking to make a positive impact on one theoretical perfect match for you, and everyone else can go jump off a cliff.

                                                • Summer May
                                                  Summer May  4 days back

                                                  i love u dave

                                                  • Richard Floyd
                                                    Richard Floyd  4 days back

                                                    Actually, I looooove boys with abnormal teeth

                                                    • Jessica Bushell-Hale
                                                      Jessica Bushell-Hale  4 days back

                                                      Part of me wonders if it's not so much 'less attractive' physically to get tats and piercings. Like, maybe it's more about personality.

                                                      • Jessica Bushell-Hale
                                                        Jessica Bushell-Hale  4 days back

                                                        I call women 'girls' and men 'boys'. Like, 'hanging out with the boys'. Or 'girls night'.

                                                        • Vistick
                                                          Vistick  4 days back

                                                          The "vampish" comment could be kind o if right... I got so much matches when I dressed "edgy", but got far far less when I started dressing cute and colorful.

                                                          • The Legend 27
                                                            The Legend 27  4 days back

                                                            My dude lets go deeper into A N A L Y S I S of relationships, keep it up!

                                                            • Peter Tolstrup
                                                              Peter Tolstrup  4 days back

                                                              You cannot apply this to guys, as the study was only done on girls, and we dont know how girls think

                                                              • Francesca Pussini
                                                                Francesca Pussini  4 days back

                                                                I think it works the opposite way too. Polarizing works on women, as pick up artists know very well.


                                                                . My ex boyfriend seemed quite ugly to me at first and then slowly and surprisingly I discovered his beauty, he seemed so classically perfect a lot of times, but when he was acting like an asshol, his ugliness would show, would ooze at me as he desired to express it. More realistically speaking we all have our good and bad angles, we make archetypal faces, express inner beauty or inner ugliness, manifested on our face in micro and micro expressions. . We are canvasses on which others project their ideal versions of us, so nobody can really know how he or she REALLY looks like.

                                                                • CodeyThings
                                                                  CodeyThings  4 days back

                                                                  Who's the chick in the pic?

                                                                  • Korri Simpson
                                                                    Korri Simpson  4 days back

                                                                    what happens when you think you're ugly
                                                                    and people say you're ugly.


                                                                    confidence level -100

                                                                  • man man
                                                                    man man  4 days back

                                                                    i havent seen your channel since like 2015 lol dude looks like marilyn manson became a feminist

                                                                    • James Buchanan
                                                                      James Buchanan  4 days back

                                                                      Isn't this just saying that people message their 5s more? Like if you have no deviation than no one messages you?

                                                                      • Derpolnischfrosch
                                                                        Derpolnischfrosch  4 days back

                                                                        I think a huge part of what mattered wasnt covered, its not about getting the most messages its about getting messages from ppl you also find attraktiv!
                                                                        The argument of "if you are chubby play it up" still is very innocent but I feel like with other things it can really quickly lead to attrakting people that are acutally mentaly ill, in the sense of beeing a feeder for example as boogie once said in a podcast.
                                                                        In boogies case the woman, as he discribes her was the most attraktiv he had been with, so I ll correct my statement from before, not only would you like messages from people that are attraktiv but also not mental

                                                                        • Ciel
                                                                          Ciel  3 days back

                                                                          Derpolnischfrosch attractive*

                                                                      • Paul Westfall
                                                                        Paul Westfall  5 days back

                                                                        People like unique looking people. It piques their curiosity. In fact, a lot of attractive actors have something "off" about them. There's been some studies done on it.

                                                                        • Rambam 7
                                                                          Rambam 7  5 days back

                                                                          Give me the vamps and I will go away.

                                                                          • Joseph Alexander
                                                                            Joseph Alexander  5 days back

                                                                            Use a scrunchy because you play with your hair too much. Do the responsible thing.

                                                                            • aaron
                                                                              aaron  5 days back

                                                                              time to turn my nose pores into wormholes 😌✋

                                                                              • Skadi
                                                                                Skadi  5 days back

                                                                                Girl/woman...depends...some situation it can be a compliment to be called a girl, cuz they obviously see you as young, which makes you feel more desirable, in some cases it really can feel like a devaluation. For example I would really have a problem to be called a girl in a workplace, cuz in my job I expect some level of mutual respect and professional behavior. Also feels kind of weird to be called a girl, if you then describe it with childish tropes. Like "girls do this, girls are like that..." "yeah, girls maybe, but you and me, we are both adults, hon:-D" (for the record, I am 30, I guess thats an important data for the opinion))


                                                                                When it comes to guys, at least in my case the logic would fit the same as in this statistics about women. I am definitely more likely to be intrigued by a guy, who creates a very negative reaction in a lot of women around me, than to a guy, who we can all agree is pretty handsome.

                                                                                • Skadi
                                                                                  Skadi  18 hours back

                                                                                  @somethingsomething thingy thats absolutely possible, not native here, sometimes I just fuck up, no matter how hard I try...

                                                                                • somethingsomething thingy
                                                                                  somethingsomething thingy  2 days back

                                                                                  @Skadi Fair enough, the wording just felt a bit weird to me.

                                                                                • Skadi
                                                                                  Skadi  2 days back

                                                                                  ​@somethingsomething thingy thats pretty obvious considering what was talked about in the video.

                                                                                • somethingsomething thingy
                                                                                  somethingsomething thingy  3 days back

                                                                                  I hope with "negative reaction" you mean other women don't find him attractive rather than "ew what a creep" or "he has morning breath, but all day long"

                                                                              • 로라Laura
                                                                                로라Laura  5 days back

                                                                                So I can wear alternative clothes and find love ? 😭 where are y'all guys interested in this ?

                                                                                • whanowa
                                                                                  whanowa  5 days back

                                                                                  0:00 _chiswideoishponsurdbycurosidystreem_

                                                                                  • Magi Anicaliptin
                                                                                    Magi Anicaliptin  5 days back

                                                                                    Ahahahahah not even the guy gets a skill called fibbing or fake it till you make it whichever it dose give a better vibe if the cute guy gets the same skill it lvl it.. There for mr ugly not so attractive lol truth and ahahaha this is fake or opinionated .. I lived this cuz yea getting your heart broken countless of times and still being ok with it.. It really fuckes you up.. Lol but you learn a skill called male hormones lol which is what really attracts them tords you.. Words can build chous but action builds peace whichever that peace leads tords destruction or creations.. This can be shown by a scale if you have a human mind as big as tha the memory as in terabytes and program's for survival if not ahahah no algorithms are going to do this lol well thats just me and shiet of done every time the girl falls in love whichever it dose not mean ill get laid personal choice the right words can get you there but the damage is not worth it if u ask me. But if they grow to hate you is one they find u attractive but cant see how in there mind that thet can get away with it without judgment so they naturally hate you in other words push you away what we as human get lured by is in blunt terms uniqueness one who can master reality.. And that can be the mind or a nation. It all depends on the person.. You know?
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                                                                                    This aint a way to hit on them because they usually look for ahahaha something way different something unique what ever that may be.. So when they play hard to get when thay really getting ugh i wana fuck him so they stay away cuz of morale but if ur super honest she prob fuck you cuz u wont blab ur mouth out and cousing damage.. It all depends a growing mind is ahaha chaotic i just make fun of them and that usually gets u in there good Grace but just make sure they know your real as in ur intention or ahahah they gana fuck u over thinking ahahah you'll find out lol

                                                                                    • emobernd
                                                                                      emobernd  5 days back

                                                                                      what replies do you get yourself? i mean in some way you do look like an ugly woman

                                                                                      • dormant pixi
                                                                                        dormant pixi  5 days back

                                                                                        Who doesn't love Dave-o?? Let's have a Q & A for Dave-o!!

                                                                                        • pearl milk tea
                                                                                          pearl milk tea  5 days back

                                                                                          Do more of this!! I love it!

                                                                                          • Zyad Hq
                                                                                            Zyad Hq  6 days back

                                                                                            this really explains the prevalence of e-girls,there are more attractive women in numbers and attractiveness on other sites like say instagram,but them being more conformist makes them less polarizing,but e-girls may be obnoxious or waifus depending on who you ask,which also explains why some people spend thousands on them.